Why do people come for counselling and psychotherapy?

Hitting a crisis point in your life can be scary. The idea of therapy can be a daunting one, often surrounded by the mystery of what to expect.

You might see a therapist for a variety of reasons. You may be facing a life changing event that has created shock and grief. You may be experiencing feelings of depression, isolation, low self-esteem and confidence or suffering from feelings of anxiety without understanding why. There may be events from your past that are preventing you from living your life in the way you would like to.

Equally, you may be experiencing a lack of direction, feelings of boredom or of being trapped. A significant relationship may be proving difficult for you to manage healthily. You may be aware of self-destructive patterns occurring in your life which are causing you, or those around you, pain.

Extreme feelings such as anger, shame, guilt, sadness or loneliness may also be affecting your daily life, keeping you stuck in an uncomfortable place.

Once you have taken the brave step to contact a therapist and have decided to seek help, it is usual to feel nervous. To begin with it might be difficult to talk about the issues that have brought you to the therapist’s room. You may experiences fear of being judged or criticised. Perhaps you have never felt that anyone has really listened to you before, or understood you, let alone accepted you.

The relationship that is formed with a therapist can be very different to other relationships. It is a boundaried environment where there is no ‘wrong or right’ and where no judgements are made. Your therapist will provide a space in which you can explore issues that are affecting you, to raised our self awareness. The more accepting you can be of yourself, the greater the opportunity for change.

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change” Carl Rogers

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